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Are Dating Apps a Waste of Time?

You may have heard your single friends complaining that dating apps like Bumble and Tinder are a waste of time and that they’ve been using them for months but haven’t connected with anyone decent. What you need to understand is that this is happening to them because they are using dating apps incorrectly.

Dating apps are a powerful tool that almost no one understands how to use to meet the right person. This leads to wasting hours trying to meet someone (to no avail) which results in users feeling jaded about dating apps and even dating in general.

What this pint-sized anthropologist in a dress has noticed is people are using a tool that is as powerful as a magic wand as merely a back scratcher or a toothpick.

A dating app can perform the almost magical feat of delivering someone amazing and who wants to have a relationship with you right to your phone; but ONLY when you understand how to use it the right way!

It’s not the apps’ fault if people fail to recognize the power it holds or doesn’t use it correctly.

You can use a dating app to meet someone who would be an amazing partner for you and who will hold your hand under the table at dinner, text you first thing in the morning, and stand beside you through life’s inevitable ups and downs.

Some of the reasons your friends are not connecting with anyone decent:

  • They are missing the boat on when to ask for the date (timing is crucial) 
  • Their communication style is ineffective 
  • They don’t know what they are looking for (or looking at) when they swipe 
  • They are trying to play a game instead of being warm and genuine 
  • They are blaming the reason they are not meeting someone great on the lack of good people out there instead of realizing that the problem might be their own behaviors

Dating apps are not a waste of time. When you use my formula for dating apps, your worst problem could end up being having to choose which amazing person to meet in real life first.

There are 4 simple steps to using dating apps effectively and I have outlined these steps in my GROW formula.

Step 1: Give

Step 2: Receive

Step 3: Offer

Step 4: Win

When you go to make the offer to meet in Step 3, how you make it is the most crucial step. I’ll get you started connecting with the right people by providing you with Step 1 (Give) for FREE below.

If you find that the way I teach you to execute Step 1 feels good, I know you’ll be eager to buy the rest of the formula so you can learn the right way to offer to meet someone in person. But, start with the free class so you’re confident that this way feels more natural than what other people are telling you to do, ok?

There’s a lot of advice on how to date out there, but this formula absolutely works with dating apps and it will feel more comfortable and natural for both you and your match.

Someone amazing is just waiting for your swipe. Take the free class here because success never stopped meaning having someone to share it all with, did it? You’re ready, and I’ll bet it’s high time you put yourself back out there.

Love,

 

The Dangers of Trying to Do ALL OF THE THINGS

Are you still feeling stoked after spending some time yesterday tapping into the feeling of what you’ve already achieved, and looking ahead to what you want to challenge yourself to next?

Great! Let’s keep that momentum going, but first, let’s talk about the dangers of trying to do ALL OF THE THINGS at once.

We all know the pattern, right?

This time, let’s outsmart our overly ambitious inclinations by choosing just ONE OF THE THINGS we want to challenge ourselves to achieve and put a (realistic) timeline on completing it.

If I’d set a goal to do ALL 20 yoga practices in one day (or even one week) I’d probably have worn myself out and failed (and maybe even risked injuring myself in the process).

So, let’s choose one thing we’re excited to accomplish, put a timeline on it that feels like a challenge but still doable (maybe even include taking a break?), and start working towards achieving that goal. Deal?

Remember, you want to measure success by your PROGRESS.

You DO NOT want to end up mainlining peanut butter cups at the end of the day because you didn’t accomplish the whole shebang. Right? Right.

Ok, go forth and make progress!

I’ll be back tomorrow with more inspiration and ideas to help you nail even your most ambitious challenges and goals. Look for my email tomorrow afternoon.

P.S. If you want more inspiration or to chat with me, I host a LIVE daily show called The Danielle Daily. You can tune in here weekdays at 3:00 pm ET/ 12:00 pm PT to ask me questions or just soak up the good vibes. If you do pop in, be sure say hello in the comments. I don’t know who is watching unless you comment. See you there sometime!

All the love,

Your goals miss you, let’s plan a reunion!

Back on January 3, I challenged myself to create a new PR (personal record) in my yoga practice, which meant hitting my yoga mat A LOT.

20 times in just 11 days, to be exact.

It was definitely a stretch for me to squeeze practicing twice daily (with 1 scheduled day off in the middle of the challenge) into my busy life, but it was also a lot of fun to test myself and see if I could really do it.

As you can imagine, the feeling when I accomplished my goal was like having lit a huge fire (in the best possible way!). Plus, I got an added boost when I found out from the studio manager that my personal challenge had provided inspiration to many of the teachers and students who had watched me working towards my goal.

My personal challenge had provided inspiration for others. How awesome is that, right?

Don’t you get excited when you see or read about other people setting a goal or taking on a personal challenge and kicking butt at it?

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Is challenging yourself right up your alley?

I thought it would be fun if we spent the next 7 days or so celebrating what we’ve already achieved, and using that feeling of accomplishment to inspire and drive us to challenge ourselves to accomplish even more.

If you’re anything like me, you LOOOVE the feeling that comes along with NAILING a personal challenge. I’ve decided we’re going to use that feeling to spur us on to accomplish EVEN MORE.

But before we do, stop right now and take 5 minutes to write down something you have already achieved.

We’ll be using that achievement (and the positive feelings that go with it) to drive us towards achieving even more.

Did you write something down? Good.

Now, what are you going to challenge yourself to next? Harness the good feelings you received from what you have already accomplished (you did write that down, didn’t you?) and use them to drive you on towards your next goal or goals.

Also, let me know what you’re working towards so I can celebrate and feel the excitement along with you!

I’ll be back tomorrow afternoon to add more fuel to the fire, so look for my email then.

All the love,

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