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3 Tips to Writing an Online Dating Profile for Professionals

For the professional man or woman, posting an online dating profile can feel risky and far too revealing for comfort.

Can colleagues (or your ex!) potentially see your profile?

How much personal information can you share without risking appearing unprofessional?

What kinds of photos should you include?

Your answers are here.

Your Profile is NOT Private

The first thing you need to know is that you’ll have no control over who sees your online dating profile. Anyone who is participating in online dating, from a colleague, to an old flame, to your ex could potentially see your profile. There can be no reasonable expectation of privacy with online dating.

Don’t let that scare you away, but consider carefully what you’ll share and how you’ll share it.

Tip #1: Imagine your Grandmother seeing your profile. My profile shares plenty of personal details about me, but it contains nothing I would not be perfectly comfortable showing my grandmother (this includes my photos).

 

Your Profile is NOT a Résumé

The second thing you’ll need to consider when writing an online dating profile is who you are OUTSIDE of your career accomplishments.

Your professional accomplishments are a significant and important part of who you are, but when you’re out there in the dating world, remember you’re looking to connect with someone you want to spend your time away from the office with.

Not sure where to start?

Tip #2: Try sharing something you’re interested in learning about. How to cook a pot roast, how to fold a fitted sheet, what a meme is, or the next place you’d like to explore in the great wide world.

 

Your Photos Matter

Third, I know it’s tempting to hire a professional photographer to take photos of you for your online dating profile, but don’t. I could explain why, but just trust me on this one for now. Do NOT include your professional headshot or the photo from your badge either.

Tip #3: Be sure your profile includes a Selfie as well as a full body shot.

Bonus Tip: The order in which you arrange the photos in your profile will make a difference in how people perceive you (and the kind of matches you receive), so give some careful consideration to that as well.

 

Busy and Need Help?

If you’d like me to show you the best order in which to post your photos or help to optimize your profile so that you maintain your professional image (while maximizing your chances of meeting someone you can really connect with) you can hire me for that.

Send me an email here to find out how soon I can work you into my calendar and for information on pricing for each of these services.

5 Best Practices for Staying Focused

Some of the best practices I’ve found for staying focused actually involve giving yourself a break from focusing and taking some time to do something that feels relaxing or simply gives your pleasure.

Things like:

  • Meditation
  • Going for a walk
  • Stretching
  • Calling a friend or
  • Savoring a cup of tea

If you find yourself having a difficult time staying focused, maybe it’s time to take a break and refresh before getting back after it?

How about spending between 5 and 30 minutes today giving one of these practices a try?

If you’ve been thinking about trying meditation, I highly recommend my friend Chel Hamilton’s podcast called Meditation Minis which is designed for crazy busy people like us. Chel has a great voice and she’s also just an awesome person so you should definitely check her out.

That’s all for today. I’ll be back again tomorrow with some of my personal secrets to keeping myself inspired. Until then…

All the Love,

D 🙂

P.S. If you want more inspiration or to chat with me, I host a LIVE daily show called The Danielle Daily. You can tune in here weekdays at 3:00 pm ET/ 12:00 pm PT to ask me questions or just soak up the good vibes. If you do pop in, be sure say hello in the comments. I don’t know who is watching unless you comment, so you can come incognito if that’s your style. See you there sometime.